8 Steps for building strong relationships
I was having dinner with a couple of friends the other night. The conversation, food, atmosphere was all great. I truly enjoy good quality time with the people I value and care about. The reason I bring this up is right next to us was a large table of eight young twenty somethings probably in college. A good part of their evening I noticed was spent with their faces glued to their cell phones. Now I know we all have times where we need to be connected, but I remember going out with my friends in college laughing, talking and building strong relationships and bonds many of which have lasted over 20 years.
I am not trying to say that we were any better than anyone else, but I do think often the youth of today is getting lost in technology and further away from true personal connections and deep relationships.
Here are few important things to think about in order to build and maintain deep meaningful relationships:
1- Realize that there are great people everywhere. You should never feel the need to settle for anything short of true happiness.
2- Be clear about your future expectations. Who would you like to be connected with? What direction are you moving towards with your life? What are your core beliefs and values?
3- Start building relationships around activities you are passionate about skiing, running, yoga, martial arts, book clubs etc…
4- Do your friends connect well with other important people in your life? It is rare to have deep relationships with people when they cannot connect well with other important people in your life.
5- Make sure to pay attention to their behavior. Are they considerate, kind and warm hearted or are they easily angered, flakey and self-centered? Noticing these behaviors in the beginning will save you time and unneeded discomfort later.
6- Listen to your heart. Often your intuition will lead you in the correct direction.
7- Know that you always have a choice. NEVER feel guilted in to having to spend time with someone.
8- When you are fortunate enough to be around those you care about make sure to be attentive, considerate and present. When someone knows you are present and that they can truly trust you then you will be at the beginning of good fruitful relationship.
Strong relationships are invaluable.
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